The thing is and part of the problem I'm seeing the past week+ is the hard line drawn and those that stand on one side who are downright militant about DRv3, and those who take the stance that RP trumps all. (And the answer should be somewhere in between Ic and OOC balance) And btw everyone decides they know best these day how the damn system works best and use that against each other or use it only when it is fit for them or to be used against someone else.by people who do not understand how DRv3 works
But here we are. In a community where we argue more than we write.
This most recent issue was clearly not an accident and was related to arguments that should never have happened but did because we have created a culture in this site of never letting anything go, ever.
And I don't mean not letting an argument go. I mean letting anything go.
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Instead, it is used to attack other people, belittle or block their contributions to the site, or to use situationally when it fits some people's preferences but not others. We have old timers who will throw a hissy fit if you want to do something with a planet nobody has touched in like 15 years or replace an item from 2007. And newer players who want to make their own place in the setting but have to jump through hoops or are too discouraged to even try due to the atmosphere we have created.
It should not matter what a gun does OOC and should only matter IC and the stats should be more a generalization and a guideline and not something to brow beat others with or go to war over if it doesn't make sense. This most recent string of problems happened because we flip flop between absolute enforcement and lax standards when it suits some people and we either need to go all in or revisit how and why we use DRv3 and the entire conversation should have been:
"Damn this is pretty high damage. Should it be lowered?"
"Yeah, looking at it now that makes/doesnt make sense."
Instead we got cats in a bag with claws out while it tumbles down the stairs.
We (the entire community) let things get this way. We allowed it to happen and keep happening and it is a bad look for any new player to come in and have the drive to write and create but instead see that and lose all that drive. This is a writing community not a Senate floor and we need to lower the stakes and start shifting back into the mindset that this is a place we go to write and RP and create together and nothing more. Not a place to draw lines or collect things to sit on. Not a place to belittle or argue with others. You all need to stop treating this place like it has actual stakes and more like it is just a place to go and write about catgirls in tight clothes but cant stop yourselves from ruining it over the course of decades with bloat, cliques, factional bias, bloated systems, paperwork, and OOC bickering and never connect the dots that it's a combination of all of that and the environment it has created and fostered that is why we are at an all time low of new players.
When “Two Gun” Crowley was captured, Police Commissioner E. P. Mulrooney declared that the two-gun desperado was one of the most dangerous criminals ever encountered in the history of New York. “He will kill,” said the Commissioner, “at the drop of a feather.”
But how did “Two Gun” Crowley regard himself? We know, because while the police were firing into his apartment, he wrote a letter addressed “To whom it may concern, ” and, as he wrote, the blood flowing from his wounds left a crimson trail on the paper. In this letter Crowley said, “Under my coat is a weary heart, but a kind one—one that would do nobody any harm.”
A short time before this, Crowley had been having a necking party with his girlfriend on a country road out on Long Island. Suddenly a policeman walked up to the car and said, “Let me see your license.” Without saying a word, Crowley drew his gun and cut the policeman down with a shower of lead. As the dying officer fell, Crowley leaped out of the car, grabbed the officer’s revolver, and fired another bullet into the prostrate body. And that was the killer who said, “Under my coat is a weary heart, but a kind one—one that
would do nobody any harm.’
Crowley was sentenced to the electric chair. When he arrived at the death house in Sing Sing, did he say, “This is what I get for killing people”? No, he said, “This is what I get for defending myself.”
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Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment ... The resentment that criticism engenders can demoralize employees, family members and friends, and still not correct the situation that has been condemned. ... If you and I want to stir up a resentment tomorrow that may rankle across the decades and endure until death, just let us indulge in a little stinging criticism, no matter how certain we are that it is justified. When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.
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Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism, and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.
Charmaylarg Dufrain said:But here we are. In a community where we argue more than we write.
I’m very much open to suggestions and critique. I don’t want anger and resentment to keep coming around and it’s making this fun hobby into a chore. Naturally maintaining SARP is not easy and needs to be done in order to keep it alive so I would like to help that process rather than hinder it. My stance is coming from a “fairness” point of view. How can we keep the setting fair and fun for all who play, easy to understand and work with, and promote unity?"Instead of condemning people, let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do. That’s a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism, and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness."
Primarily, lack of notification.I took a few minutes to review the recent updates and they all seemed pretty reasonable--some actually lower than the conversion suggested. Is there a specific update you had concerns with, or is this more about lack of notifications?
Rizzo said:Every single one of us is expected to bring our changes through NTSE.
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