While you bring up valid points, some have been addressed already. Paramilitary is also subjective. Bodyguards, Mercs, so on and so forth can be construed as paramilitary if the proper criteria/actions are met. More or less I can view these guys as boy scouts meet peace corps.
The orphans of Taiie have more or less been helped and taken care of as far as the UOC is concerned (As the UOC is made of the remnants of the bard cluster who fled, 5th XF etc etc), war funds, schools, jobs, everything to lead a productive, healthy and happy life is supplied even psychological counciling can be easily provided. There is no disruption of discontinuity here as far as Taiie is concerned or rather to such a drastic extent to warrant snuffing out, or overtly changing a submission to a large degree.
Even with numbers in the millions, helping on the scale of a galaxy is more then they can handle since even with millions you'd be stretched thin as there are billions, or rather trillions of people out there, so selectivity may have played an adequate role. Remember. There was war on all corners of the galaxy, and more orphans, invalids, destitutes, and sheer people in need they may not have even had the man power (Er, child/teen power.) to assist on a reputable scale to warrant note, or even were not able to help at all or even want to get embroiled in the conflict from the get go.
But yeah, this is for the other nations to decide in terms of DO WANT, or DO NOT WANT. :?