Sometimes you get trophies you don't like. In karate I got an award nobody else got one year, "Most Improved." To little me, that means I started at -1990 skill points in karate and I was bummed. It inevitably made me persevere, but I couldn't change the award, I could only change how I felt about it. In time, I learned that you don't choose the awards/trophies that you get in life. Sure, you can choose to take karate or you can choose to join SARP, but you don't get to cherry pick the awards the sensei and forum give you as a member. They are given to you, and what you make with them can help shape your experience, or it can detract from it.
By intention, though, a trophy is not a bad thing. My example above is a way to relate to your feelings about the trophy being awarded as a bad thing, but that's not a normal response and what I learned is of the importance. I hope the above can help you guys better understand the forum systems and how they can help and not detract from your experience here!
About older members not having as many likes, because they started on SARP in a time when likes didn't exist: I don't super like that, but every other lesson I have learned about trophies as a concept points to that being okay. The biggest reason for it being super okay is there are several other trophies attainable of equal or greater value. If you want a 20 point trophy, check out the all available trophies page linked in the OP, I believe. There are several for the older members as well as newer ones. My point is that it's okay to not get something for now, especially when there are other things like it and it is a fixed goal that you can still work towards, it's not out of the question or anything!
Thanks for the constructive feedback, though, and I'll leave the thread open for a healthy conversation to continue about this.