Wes, I'm not going to suggest that you throw away the work you've done on your fleet and starbase... but it seems obvious to me that it's largely effort done mostly by you, mostly interesting only you as well.
It's bound to make you feel bitter. I don't want to devalue what you've done so far, but I think you're spending far too much time alone on this thing. I think you need to be part of something else, which would be larger, and would allow you to to play with people and enjoy the content of STO without feeling you're going at it alone. The SARP fleet hasn't been doing that for you.
You should have tons of fleet credit by now, right? So, here's my suggestion: have one of your alts be in command position of the fleet, and kick your main out. My fleet,
the 12th Fleet, is active, tries to hold group activities, and has a much more fleshed out starbase - when they next handout personnal requisitions (they're rationed monthly to make sure everyone has a chance to grab some) you would be able to use up those hard earned fleet credits.
My goal isn't to get you into the fleet so the 12th has one more body, mind you ^_^;
It's much more a matter of me being in it, so I know what it has, and I've a fair idea, having been in your unfortunately 'ghostly' fleet, of what you're missing out on. Any other fleet would do, but I'm sure of what the 12th has, and would offer you if you'd join it. Can't speak for others, though.
I know you'll look at this and inwardly protest "but that would just make all I've done so far useless". I've no way of pacifying that kind of concern. But I don't have a feeling that for everything you've sacrificed and worked for that you've gotten a rewarding return for it. You could stubbornly keep going, but I think it's more important for you to just have fun in the first place.
Think about it.